I AM OK - YOU ARE OK

It is said that any person will be one of the 3 phases in life
1) I AM OK, YOU ARE NOT OK.
2) YOU ARE OK, I AM NOT OK.
3) I AM OK AND YOU ARE OK.

It is definitely true. But I have realised most of us, most of the time are in 1st state. We do switch to 2nd state sometimes. But it is state 1 that we live with predominantly. A very few people are in 3rd state. The day we start living in 3rd state, I AM OK, YOU ARE OK, we are in real happy mental state. People say Happiness is state of mind...extension to this would be the state we are in... when we feel I am ok, you are ok, it means everything is ok... When everything is ok, we are obviously happy. That happiness is the state of mind is what people talk about

When I tried to analyze why is it very few people are in 3rd state & most of are in 1st state, it is because predominantly because of ego. Every single person on earth has ego built in with in themselves. People can let go off their sleep, food, every thing but not their ego. A person might claim, that he/she is not egoistic...but by nature all are egoistic. It is only about accepting it or not accepting it. When a person accepts it...it means he/she is transforming from state 1 to state 2. But again as I have mentioned again, not all can be in state 2 for long, for the ego hits the man over & over again.

when we grow beyond our ego & start accepting the people the way they are with out any expectation from the other person, it the state of happiness we achieve, I am ok - You are ok state. Very few people are in this for ever. All of us switch back & forth in all these states & stick to one of the state... Person who sticks to state 3 is always happy. That state of mind - happiness that people talk about.

I am concluding this by trying to find out my state... I know I am OK....Are YOU OK???? :)