End of an year

Moments after moments, seconds after seconds, minutes after minutes, days after days, months after months, and years after years pass by without waiting for anyone on earth.

With every passing day we meet new people, bring in new experiences and nonstop learning.  With another few days passing by this year is also lost. Yes, lost. As one of the famous personalities mentioned, it is the years that we lose with time if we have not done anything significant with that time. Some people tend to believe that this year would be the last year as the world might come to an end (Thanks to the movie 2012, which made more people to believe that the world would come to an end in 2012). I don't buy the idea of world coming to an end on 21st Dec. But surely, 31st Dec would mark an end to this year.

This year has been a year of mixed feelings/opportunities/emotions for me like anyone else. Have learnt a lot & most important have un-learnt few things which I always "assumed" to be right. I have realized that just because I assume that something is right or wrong, world necessarily doesn't see it that way.

With this year passing I have one more year of experience to carry with me with new learning & unlearning on day to day basis. What is important today will become irrelevant tomorrow. What is current today becomes history tomorrow. But the fact that the event has taken place still remains.

Will the world come to an end? Has anyone really seen the future? May be!! But I haven't seen the future so I would still believe that world will not come to an end this year, for there are way too many good people in this world who deserve to have a better life than a death when the world comes to an end. The goodness of these good people will override the badness of the bad people & will help the world continue to operate the way we are doing today, now, at this moment!! And because of this good people world will not come to an end & so is my blogging :) I will blog again next year...

Life is like Dosa Batter

I know when people read the subject, they would 1st laugh looking at comparison done. But on one of the evenings when I was involved in some deep thinking on what life is all about, I had to make dosas & this kind thought suddenly stuck me: our life is so much like dosa batter.

When someone looks at the Dosa Batter, it looks white, smooth and nice. Something very similar to our life. It looks smooth and nice & white (Peaceful) to any outsider. Life looks very smooth and nice when some looks from outside. Yes, though it is smooth most of the times, there will be some roller coaster rides now & then and only those really close to you will be able to see that the smooth and nice look is only from outside. Only Dosa batter knows the amount of grinding it has to go through to get that smooth and nice look just like the way human beings are grinded!!

Next stage is when dosa is put on the tawa. Slowly we will see that it has pores... just like the way our life has pores and issues in life. Dosa batter which was looking white and smooth suddenly started developing the pores while exposed to tawa. This is so much similar to the experiences we have in real life. With each day passing by in this world, we have lot of issues which create holes or a gap within you. These holes gets more and more with every day passing, much similar to the dosa batter which develops pores much quicker than those which are freshly made when put on tawa.

Next stage is when the dosa is left on the tawa for a long time it gets roasted and gets very hard, just like any person who has become hard after facing series of problems in life. We only see that the dosa is hard but never realize why dosa got hard, just like the way we judge a person just by the ways he reacts to us or uses the words without realizing what caused that person to become what he is.

Now, think what happens to that dosa which is either too hard or which got torn off on the tawa while preparing!!! Nobody ever will want to eat that dosa. This amazes me again when I do the comparison with human life. Anyone who is extra hard or torn out in life because of various difficulties in life, nobody will ever want to accept that person!!!

Any Dosa which is baked to the perfect blend and looks nice is the one that everyone prefers to eat & relish much similar to the way people are treated. If you are nice and perfect everyone will want you in life. But the day you show that you hard, you are termed bad and no one will ever want you.

Last stage of Dosa, either it is eaten up or it is thrown. Irrespective of what has happened (eaten or thrown) Dosa's lifecycle has come to an end. Thoughts about making fresh batter is already in place and the next day fresh dosa batter would get ready... Irrespective of your good or bad, your life cycle comes to an end & new generation is ready to replace you!!!

I Love Myself

Whom do I love the most? I have asked myself this question several times in my life & at different times. I am sure that at every point in time, we feel we love someone or the other more than rest of the crowd in this whole world. Is he or she the one we love the most at that point? But how much do we love that person?

Whenever I think of most loved ones, there are definitely a definite set of people who flash through my mind. I always think of my family and my friends when I think of who do I love the most. It is always my parents I think of 1st whenever I think of loving people. So by default it would be my parents that I love the most I always thought unless this thought pitched my mind. If I love them the most & unconditionally then why does it hurt me when they scold me or try to correct me whenever they think I am wrong. Why don't I accept whatever they say blindly? What is it that makes me hurt? Then I thought it must be that kids don't love their parents as much as parents love their kids. But here again, if that is true, why do parents get hurt with what their children say to parents while they are in anger. If we love our kids unconditionally, then what ever they have to say about us should not hurt. But it does hurt when ever anything specifically is mentioned about their negative character even if their own kids are saying it.  

Spouses are not even to be considered as everyone knows with whom do we fight the most :). Whether we like it or not and accept it or not, most of the times we vent out all our frustrations with our life partner for we have taken that person for granted.

But the question still remains. Whom do we love the most? Answer undoubtedly is that we love ourselves the most. There are 2 things about us. There is something called Ego & then there is self-esteem. In most of the cases, rather in all of the cases, when we love the other person we are ready to give up our ego. Though the ego pops up now and then which leads to fight, we compromise with our loved ones when we see that the ego is doing no good to the relationship. But if the self esteem is hurt, we will not be able to handle it. What is the big deal about this self esteem I have questioned myself? As the word itself has it, it is to do with self. Whenever this 'self' esteem is hurt, we are hurt. This self esteem is nothing but the ME factor. I love myself more than anyone else on this earth. So when someone hurts my self esteem that's when I break. This 'self' esteem is more than anyone else or anything else on this earth.

Is it only with me that I love myself more than anyone else on this earth, I am not sure. But what I know for sure is that I am one amongst those who love themselves more than anyone else. Are you with me? 

I Love You!!!

I Love You!!!


I wake up thinking about you.

I think of you when I am about to sleep.

I think of you every minute & every second.

I think of you even when I go with my other loved ones to a movie hall.

I think of you during my lunch and dinner.

I think of you when I play with my kids.

I think of you even I am advised by loved ones not to think about you.

I think of you every time I step out of the house.

I think of you when I am not with you.

I think of you when I am on vacation.

I think of you when it is extreme hot or it is extreme cold, for that matter even when it is raining.

I think of you while I am at work or am at home.

I think of you whenever I pass through some favorite shops of mine.

I think of you when I am tired or when I am extremely fresh and energetic.

I think of you every time I go out on shopping.

I think of you in every function or get together I go to. More so in marriage halls.

I think of you in all birthday parties.

I think of you, I think of you & I think of you.....

In short, I think of you all the time.

I think you are my strength ... wait, wait, you are my extreme weakness...

Oh!!! I love you Ice-cream :)

Complete: YOU AND ME

Like poles repel each other and unlike poles attract each other. How true!!!!!!

I don't know for sure if like poles repel each other but I know for sure unlike poles definitely attract each other. Oh No!!!! I am not talking about magnetism here... I am talking about human relationship...

I know & I have seen almost all the relationship that are working amazingly is because unlike poles attract each other :)

I think of any good couples this is what I have observed in general.

• ·         One of them loves sweet so much that they can eat sweet whole day, while the other cannot take even 1% of what the other person takes it.
• ·         One of them loves junk food to the core, while the other one will not even touch it
• ·         One of them love tea, one of them love coffee...
• ·         One of them is spend thrift; other one is reserved & wise while spending
• ·         One of them is a sound sleeper (literally making sounds- he he he) and the other one is extremely light sleeper.
• ·         One of them loves to roam other, while the other one is a couch potato.
• ·         One of them is a late sleeper while the other is early bird
• ·         One of them is social & is very good at networking while the other is a reserved person
• ·         One of them loves shopping(all of know which gender is usually inclined to this ;) ) while the other see it as a pain
• ·         One of them is a kids person while the other is not
• ·         One of them is always carefree in life while the other is a serious person.
• ·         One of them is workaholic while the other is not too serious about work
• ·         One of them loves to read and read while the other one is not too eager to read
• ·         One of them is active almost all the time while the other person is waiting for  a reason to give an excuse for being idle
• ·         One of them is spiritually inclined, while the other is not really so inclined
• ·         One of them cautious and believes in prevention is better than cure, while the other thinks, let's handle the situation when it occurs
• ·         One believes in saving for future while the other is not really bothered.
• ·         One of them believes in roaming the world while the other person sees the world in the place they are in
• ·         One of them loves comedy movies, while the other one loves serious movies
• ·         One of them watches movie for time pass while the other watches it for emotions in it
• ·         One of them is an emotional person, while the other one is a practical person
• ·         Best of all, as my loved one says, he loves her & she love him....

List is endless and I don't think I can capture even 1% of the entire list...

How true.... This is our life... we love our life for the way we are & we love the other person because he/she isn't like me.

We complete each other. We compliment each other. Life gives a complete picture only because of this mismatch and liking for unlike poles... There is no complete me without you & there is no complete you without me...

A cloudy romantic Morning

I wake up in the morning and realize that it’s a cloudy and a romantic morning. I decide to bunk office and make my plans for the day. I get up, get ready & hit a movie hall with my loved one after having just the right breakfast for the right mood for the day. Perfect movie with the leading actor I admire & leading actress most people say is good.

After the movie I decide to go shopping followed by the sumptuous lunch. After the lunch is the dessert part for which had the ice cream of my choice… I plan to get back home when it is still cloudy… My heart says why not a massage? Full body massage? My heart synchs up with this message of my brain and tells my brain; yes you sounded right J… For once I see my heart and brain backing up each other. I have never ever seen this kind of understanding between my own brain and heart before. Something must be really right today I thought. I hit the massage center and get the massaging done.

After the massage I pick up a book of my choice to read in some leisure time & get back home. As soon as I reach home it starts pouring. I cannot refrain myself playing in rain like a kid and I hit the terrace to play in water. I play & play till the rain is tired of pouring.

I get back home, see my loved ones are happy for me for getting wet in the rain for a change. I have a hot cup of tea ready to sip as soon as I get back to dining hall after getting freshen up with fresh clean clothes from the damp clothes after the rain dance. Hot snacks await me too along with the cup of tea. As I take the sip of tea I look outside the window. View is just amazing. I see birds flying in the sky with the sun about to set in his orange color add to the beauty of the sky. Fragrance of flowers spread as the fresh air blows through my face and gives me a hug.

I lie down on the lap of my mother with my favorite music on in the background and start reading the book I purchased in the afternoon. What an amazing book for the mood I am in today. Such romantic perfect novel I have ever read…

I wish I had ONLY such days in my life when I hear my Mother calling me “aren’t you going to office today? Stop dreaming and get ready to work, you are getting late to work. You had asked me to wake you up early as you have loads of work to complete for the day at office”. I open my eyes to realize that I had a beautiful dream!! J

I have learnt

I have leant that the more you smile, you get to see more smile J

I have learnt that no matter how much I sleep, I still feel that I am deprived of sleep J

I have learnt that more the resolution of eating healthy food, lesser the chances of eating healthy food

I have learnt that the more you adjust, the more the world demands from you

I have learnt that in pure love there is no ego

I have learnt that when you are running late on something, the entire environment makes it more difficult for you to be on time J

I have learnt that early in the morning, alarm is the only thing that is awake

I have learnt that no matter how much I learn, there is still a lot to learn.

I have learnt that your favorite song will always bring a smile on your face J

I have learnt that no matter what you do, you cannot keep everyone happy

I have learnt that the more you try to keep others happy, more difficult it will get for you

I have learnt that more you try to protect something the loosen it gets

I have learnt that it is very difficult to unlearn what is already learnt

I have learnt that you don’t need any reason to love a person, but you need lot of reasons to hate a person

I have learnt that no matter you love another person; you still love yourself little more than the other person

I have learnt that retail therapy works big time when you are low

I have learnt that when you give up on something, it is difficult to accept that back

I have learnt that learning is a continuous process & is never ending

I have learnt that our children are our true teachers

I have learnt that the more we talk the less we learn, the more we listen, more we learn

I have learnt that you don’t need weapons to hurt anyone; your carefully chosen words are good enough to hurt a person

I have learnt that music & books are true friends because both of them don’t respond back to what we say J

I have learnt that Sunday evenings are bothersome as there are Monday blues !!!

In the name of Spiritualism

If you behave badly now, you will go to hell after death… I have heard this so many times since my childhood… but there is always one thing that bothered me when I heard this statement. Who has really seen life after death? If no one has ever seen life after death then who has defined this hell or heaven? I am by no means saying we should be bad. In fact I want to be good too, but not to go to heaven or hell, but just because I want to be good.

To be good in terms of spirituality is to be God fearing. While God fearing is fine, what is not fine is following all those disciples who misuse people’s emotion in the name of spirituality. There are people who follow these disciples so blindly that they quit their own way of living life & start living life for achieving mukti or Moksha, which literally means release. Most of the people who are firm believers of these disciples say that to achieve moksha or mukti from this life the ultimate that everyone wants. What is the release? From where is the release? Release is the liberation from Samsara (our family, society, social life etc) and concomitant suffering involved in being subject to the cycle of repeated death and reincarnation or rebirth says Wikipedia. So, doesn’t release mean that you are in some way looking forward for your death? And how can God fear or following these disciples help you achieve release? To achieve the release that they think as Moksha or mukti, are these people actually not missing out on living the life for today? Is it not a coward way to say I want mukti or release? Is it way too different than committing suicide? Only difference I see is that they are not killing themselves, instead hoping the death to strike them naturally.

In Hinduism, it is said that everyone has 4 stages of life. Brahmcharya Ashrama, Grihasta Ashram, Vanaprasta Ashram & Sanyasa Ashram.

While Brahmacharya ashrama deals with study life, learning etc, Grihasta Ashrama deals with enjoying with family & bringing up the kids. Vanaprasta ashrama is typically with the person becoming old and having enjoyed & seen enough sorrows or miseries in life. Sanyasa Ashrama is the last stage, when that person wants renounce the world. So, typically the last stage is the Sanyasa Ashrama stage. Everyone somewhere deep within the heart definitely believes in the quote, live life to the fullest. But, these days, in the name of spirituality, there are umpteen numbers of youngsters who are in sanyasa ashrama even before they reach grihasta ashrama stage. These youngsters might have gone through enough sufferings that they chose this path, I am debating on that. But are these youngsters living their life? Are they not being cowards when they chose last ashram of life or is it really that every one surely wants mukti/release? What life are they living? Deep within themselves will they be happy for choosing the path they have chosen?

I don’t want mukti for sure (at least at this stage in life). I don’t think I will soon reach that stage either. Why would I want release or mukti? To be released or to achieve mukti is it not looking forward for my own death? Why would I want to die? What good am I doing to my loved ones when I die? Won’t I be selfish when look forward for Mukti? Will I not put my loved ones in sheer pain & mental stress if I say I want to achieve mukti / release?

Everyone believes that mukti or release is not for body, but it is for soul. Now, without release to body, how soul can be released? Even if I blindly consider that it is for soul, I would still not like it… I want to take re-birth, I want to enjoy my life, I want to explore the world, I want to do everything in my next birth which remains unfulfilled in this birth.

After all, mukti or release is after death & who has really seen life after death? If no one has seen life after death, then no one has even seen true mukti or release. If this is not a proven theory, then why release your soul from your body? Why think of releasing the soul or body?

Will I still say the same some 30 years down the line? I am not sure. Will I start thinking of achieving mukti 30 years down the line, I am not sure of that either. All I know now is in the name of mukti many youngsters & middle aged people have started looking forward for their own death…

What is this?

Stop being “Pessimist”, I have heard this lot of times from my close & loved ones so far, so much that some where I have accepted that I am a pessimist.

What is with a pessimist? What’s wrong in thinking that something might not work the way we want it to work? Isn’t that the case a lot of times? If a famous personality or a scientist or a mathematician says it, or proves it with formula, it’s accepted as law. If a common man (in this case, common woman, me ;)) says it, it is pessimism!!

Now, give it a thought… if everyone is accepting Murphy’s Law, a law which has worked perfectly well, what’s the deep thought with in Murphy’s Law? “Anything that can go wrong will go wrong”. Well said… people accepted. Even the most optimist person accepts this. Why would not an optimist say that no to this? So is there no pessimism in this? I am sure an optimist would counter argue saying, no it’s just being practical… is it so? I still see a certain degree of pessimism even in the optimist if someone accepts this law.

Why register any vehicle? I have given a thought a lot of times. Why would not people just take a new vehicle & start driving, I have thought for quite some time. Only reason that even the Wikipedia says was that the vehicle registration was made mandatory to track the vehicles “in case” of accidents. Oh Really!!! I thought. What would a group of people/ a body/ a society who ever came up with an idea of registering the vehicle thought about it? “IF”, there is an accident then we need to track the vehicle & its owner etc. isn’t there pessimism? Well, people might counter argue saying its practical. Whole world accepted just because a group of people said that. What about all those optimists sitting out there? Even they want their vehicles registered!!!

Now, why is wearing a helmet made compulsory for riding a 2 wheeler? Of course, it is no brainer. It is protect your head “IF” you meet with accident. Isn’t that being pessimist? Well, it’s being practical as defined by optimist. Then why would an optimist wear a helmet? Give it a thought J

Now, having said that, isn’t being practical in a way accepting pessimism? If yes, then think a little further, if optimist accepts that being practical is ok, then by transitive law, isn’t an optimist also a pessimist to some extent? So deep within all of us, is there a pessimist or an optimist who is trying to see the world & incidences the way we see it?

If being practical is not being pessimist, then which is that thin line which separates being practical from pessimism. Something that is constantly haunting me, but till now I haven’t been able to successfully draw that thin line & “I don’t think I can draw that thin line too” … now, what’s that?!!!