Curiosity defined at its best :)
Thursday, October 28, 2010
Friday, July 30, 2010
Change
People change, priorities change, thinking changes with time. That's the rule of nature and it has to continue this way.
Grand parents of our generations typically told that they had a very tough life in bringing up kids. Post independence era in India was tough & that lot of families typically had to struggle to make their living. Getting right education to kids was very tough and so not many could afford to send their kids for higher educations or masters etc.
I know when we were young my parents had a defined goal of getting us educated and they worked towards it. They retired as happy individuals with their children well educated who would stand on their own foot and finally get their children married off. After they retire, typically, finally they would build a house with all their savings and lived happily ever after.
Now, the priorities have changed for us. Our generation not only think of educating their children and getting them settled in life...We also aim at owing a site, a flat in an apt, an independent house, a lavish car, an extra site for investment purposes, some money to play with at share market, good money to spend at shopping malls on weekend...what not?? list grows... I am not saying this is not right nor am I saying this is right...I am trying to bring out the drastic difference in generations... This is the rule of nature & will continue this way I suppose... I wonder, what would life look like when our kids grow up...will have to wait and watch...
Priorities changes continuously... Some one said it right. Only change is constant...
When we get up in the morning priority would be to get the kids ready so that they can reach school in time...as soon as the kids reach school, our priority switches to "how can the beat the traffic & reach office asap". As soon as we reach office, it switches to how quickly and efficiently can I complete my work...as the sun thinks of retiring from day's long work, our priority switches from office work to how quickly I get back home...when we reach home, how to make use of the time effectively so as to spend quality time with kids and with family members...as time elapses, thinking about dinner would take priority followed by how quickly we can get to sleep so as to cope with next day's schedule...
In the nutshell we need to quickly adapt to change...I realize that priority changes, people change, weather change...everything on earth changes...Dynosarus which was a huge animal could not adapt to change & so it could not survive....Cockroach which is so small could adapt to all extreme conditions has its omni presence even now...if we don't adapt to changes, changes in priority, changes in life, changes in person...changes that happen in life on day today basis, we will soon take the place of dynosaur...
So my stupid brain....Adapt....Adapt to changes :)
Grand parents of our generations typically told that they had a very tough life in bringing up kids. Post independence era in India was tough & that lot of families typically had to struggle to make their living. Getting right education to kids was very tough and so not many could afford to send their kids for higher educations or masters etc.
I know when we were young my parents had a defined goal of getting us educated and they worked towards it. They retired as happy individuals with their children well educated who would stand on their own foot and finally get their children married off. After they retire, typically, finally they would build a house with all their savings and lived happily ever after.
Now, the priorities have changed for us. Our generation not only think of educating their children and getting them settled in life...We also aim at owing a site, a flat in an apt, an independent house, a lavish car, an extra site for investment purposes, some money to play with at share market, good money to spend at shopping malls on weekend...what not?? list grows... I am not saying this is not right nor am I saying this is right...I am trying to bring out the drastic difference in generations... This is the rule of nature & will continue this way I suppose... I wonder, what would life look like when our kids grow up...will have to wait and watch...
Priorities changes continuously... Some one said it right. Only change is constant...
When we get up in the morning priority would be to get the kids ready so that they can reach school in time...as soon as the kids reach school, our priority switches to "how can the beat the traffic & reach office asap". As soon as we reach office, it switches to how quickly and efficiently can I complete my work...as the sun thinks of retiring from day's long work, our priority switches from office work to how quickly I get back home...when we reach home, how to make use of the time effectively so as to spend quality time with kids and with family members...as time elapses, thinking about dinner would take priority followed by how quickly we can get to sleep so as to cope with next day's schedule...
In the nutshell we need to quickly adapt to change...I realize that priority changes, people change, weather change...everything on earth changes...Dynosarus which was a huge animal could not adapt to change & so it could not survive....Cockroach which is so small could adapt to all extreme conditions has its omni presence even now...if we don't adapt to changes, changes in priority, changes in life, changes in person...changes that happen in life on day today basis, we will soon take the place of dynosaur...
So my stupid brain....Adapt....Adapt to changes :)
Wednesday, June 9, 2010
True Teachers
There are lot of things in our life that we, the grown ups or so called adults don't realize and appreciate in life just because we are grown up. We don't have time, we don't have energy, we don't have the right mind set to appreciate what we have with us. As and when we grow up, We slowly loose the right attitude to appreciate life. Sometimes this makes me think if growing up itself is a sin by itself.
To understand and appreciate everything around us we should learn from Kids, small little ones around us. These kids can treat everyone around them equally. They are not biased with anything or anyone. They speak their heart & that's why they speak truth. They are able to treat everyone equally as their mind and heart is pure. They are innocent. As and when we start growing up, we start loosing our innocence. Cunningness slowly replaces the innocence. Some people justify it as being smart. I would still call it innocence. It is a debatable topic by itself. What ever it is, when we grown up we loose innocence.
Kids get happiness just by looking at the sky, star or moon. We cannot get the same amount of happiness as kids get. Counter agrument would be that kids are yet to see other things in life, which we have seen & so they find happiness looking at sky, star or moon. I don't tend to agree on this. Yes, when you become one amongst the kids around you, you can find the same happiness they find in seeing the sky, stars or moon.
Kids can find happiness when we have guests at home. Kids are true teachers. They teach you to find happiness in simple things in life, they teach you to treat people equally, they teach you to smile. Kids smile about 200 times a day on average while adults smile 62 times a day (women) or 8 times a day (men) on an average. Isn't too sad that we cannot even smile as kids do. Kids teach you that loving anyone is much easier than hating anyone. They teach you to speak the truth. They teach you not to worry about future. They teach you that you need to do what you like to do. They teach you to go back to your child hood days & enjoy rain like the way we did in child hood days. They are true teachers in all sense. We teach them lot of things in life to them. But we don't realize how much we can learn from them.
When we are kids, all of us spend time just looking at fingers & smile everytime we look at our own fingers. As we grow up we decorate our fingers with finger rings from gold, platinum & Diamond, still unable to appreciate and smile like the way we did when we were small just looking at fingers. Is it only because we are grown up? We can still learn to smile looking at our own finger by learning from these true teachers :)
I am trying to find true teachers with any kid around me...Are you with me?
To understand and appreciate everything around us we should learn from Kids, small little ones around us. These kids can treat everyone around them equally. They are not biased with anything or anyone. They speak their heart & that's why they speak truth. They are able to treat everyone equally as their mind and heart is pure. They are innocent. As and when we start growing up, we start loosing our innocence. Cunningness slowly replaces the innocence. Some people justify it as being smart. I would still call it innocence. It is a debatable topic by itself. What ever it is, when we grown up we loose innocence.
Kids get happiness just by looking at the sky, star or moon. We cannot get the same amount of happiness as kids get. Counter agrument would be that kids are yet to see other things in life, which we have seen & so they find happiness looking at sky, star or moon. I don't tend to agree on this. Yes, when you become one amongst the kids around you, you can find the same happiness they find in seeing the sky, stars or moon.
Kids can find happiness when we have guests at home. Kids are true teachers. They teach you to find happiness in simple things in life, they teach you to treat people equally, they teach you to smile. Kids smile about 200 times a day on average while adults smile 62 times a day (women) or 8 times a day (men) on an average. Isn't too sad that we cannot even smile as kids do. Kids teach you that loving anyone is much easier than hating anyone. They teach you to speak the truth. They teach you not to worry about future. They teach you that you need to do what you like to do. They teach you to go back to your child hood days & enjoy rain like the way we did in child hood days. They are true teachers in all sense. We teach them lot of things in life to them. But we don't realize how much we can learn from them.
When we are kids, all of us spend time just looking at fingers & smile everytime we look at our own fingers. As we grow up we decorate our fingers with finger rings from gold, platinum & Diamond, still unable to appreciate and smile like the way we did when we were small just looking at fingers. Is it only because we are grown up? We can still learn to smile looking at our own finger by learning from these true teachers :)
I am trying to find true teachers with any kid around me...Are you with me?
Thursday, May 6, 2010
Selfish ME
Long time back I had read this story from Akbar Birbal stories, which read something like this
Akbar once asked Birbal whom do you think any one would like the most on earth? Birbal immediately replied "One own self". Akbar was not ready to accept it & he argued saying probably the mother & child relationship breaks your agrument. A mother loves her kids the most. Birbal didn't argue anything at that moment. But nevertheless he wanted to prove his point. So next day when he walked into the palace, he had 2 monkeys (a mom monkey & a baby monkey) & a big tub, which can be used to fill the water. Then, initally he placed both the monkies in the tub & started pouring the water slowly. Till the water reached the dangerous level for the baby monkey, both the monkies enjoyed playing in water. Then, as the water level increased, mummy monkey tried to protect the baby by placing the monkey on its head, so that the baby is safe. Mummy monkey protected the baby monkey till the water level reached its threshold. In other words, till the water reached the face of the mummy monkey, it was trying to protect the baby monkey. But when the water level rose & it started hitting mummy monkey's face, it immediately took the baby off its head, put the baby down & stood on it, so that water level was with in the threshold. This short, but true story proved Birbal's point. Yes, one love their own self the most than anyone else.
I am not saying Human beings are as selfish as monkey mentioned above, but I also know, they are no good :)
There is no one on this earth that you love more than yourself. You love yourself first, then comes all others. This includes loving parents, kids, spouse, friends...name them & they will all be loved, but none will be loved like yourself. Whole world is like this. But again selfish ME part in us, won't allow to even accept it because of selfishness & the ego. Selfish me is always trying to prove, I am good. I am different. I am not like others. So yes, I am not selfish :) But again all this is a selfish motive.
Selfish me is always active till our last minute. Working mother for example, would leave her kid back at Day care even when the baby cries his/her heart out trying to convey that he/she is not interested in going to day care & it truly needs the time from Mother. But Selfish mother still drops the baby to day care & convinces herself saying baby will be fine after few minutes when I am out of sight. After all, I am working for our own kids. Is the mom working for kids or for her own self? It is definitely for her own self in most of the cases if not in all cases. It is for her own selfish motive. Money Money & Money. You see Money can buy lot of luxurious, materialist things. Yes, there is a selfish me there...People may not accept it again because of selfishness !!!!!
I always think, there is only 1 thing in life which is always true...It is the thought of I, ME, MYSELF. Age, sex, location, reason nothing matters. It is always I, ME, MYSELF which works like a magic. Do you agree with me??? Ask your selfish me with in yourself before answering anything :)
Friday, April 30, 2010
Love Your Enemies?
Father of Nation, India, Mahatma Gandhi said, Love your enemies. I keep thinking about this loving the enemies very often.
I am trying to figure out, how many of us can actually do this. In the 1st place, if we could love a person, we would not made him/her as our enemies. Once we start treating a person as enemy, then mentally it is not possible to love that person irrespective of what he/she does. There are exceptions when we start respecting & loving an enemy, but that's truly an exception.
Trying to further analyze what makes a person as enemy, I think it is difficult to say that it is these are the top 'N'points that make me hate that person. But it is very sure that we will not hate any person in 1 incidence. It is over a period of time & over various incidences that we start joining the links slowly & form an opinion about a person, as a result of which we will start liking or disliking a person, over a period of time which will turn to loving or hating a person.
Actually, a person starts hating another person whenever his/her self esteem is beaten up side down. A hurt to Self esteem can be forgotten & forgiven once, twice & thrice, but not more often that that. A man can forego everything but, his self esteem & ego. Foregoing self esteem & ego is impossible for anyone & for everyone. When ever a person gets his self esteem and ego hurt by another person over & over again, it is only then we start hating other person. In other words, we will have have enemies added to our list.
I am not saying no one should have enemies, I am also not saying we should have enemies. I am not saying Mahatma Gandhi was totally right, I am also not saying we should love enemies. Best we could do to avoid having enemies is to be very cautious in interacting with a person who starts hurting our self esteem. Instead of getting into hating mode & making new enemies, best that suits is to avoid them.
We should follow the theory, keep your friends close, but keep your enemies even closer as you need to know what your enemy is planning for you, so that you can be ready with the counter move :)
I am trying to figure out, how many of us can actually do this. In the 1st place, if we could love a person, we would not made him/her as our enemies. Once we start treating a person as enemy, then mentally it is not possible to love that person irrespective of what he/she does. There are exceptions when we start respecting & loving an enemy, but that's truly an exception.
Trying to further analyze what makes a person as enemy, I think it is difficult to say that it is these are the top 'N'points that make me hate that person. But it is very sure that we will not hate any person in 1 incidence. It is over a period of time & over various incidences that we start joining the links slowly & form an opinion about a person, as a result of which we will start liking or disliking a person, over a period of time which will turn to loving or hating a person.
Actually, a person starts hating another person whenever his/her self esteem is beaten up side down. A hurt to Self esteem can be forgotten & forgiven once, twice & thrice, but not more often that that. A man can forego everything but, his self esteem & ego. Foregoing self esteem & ego is impossible for anyone & for everyone. When ever a person gets his self esteem and ego hurt by another person over & over again, it is only then we start hating other person. In other words, we will have have enemies added to our list.
I am not saying no one should have enemies, I am also not saying we should have enemies. I am not saying Mahatma Gandhi was totally right, I am also not saying we should love enemies. Best we could do to avoid having enemies is to be very cautious in interacting with a person who starts hurting our self esteem. Instead of getting into hating mode & making new enemies, best that suits is to avoid them.
We should follow the theory, keep your friends close, but keep your enemies even closer as you need to know what your enemy is planning for you, so that you can be ready with the counter move :)
Thursday, March 25, 2010
IRRELEVANT
- Monday Mornings are always blue.
- Ramayana is the greatest Indian Epic.
- Yawn lasts for approximately 6 seconds.
- Which is Better? PEPSI OR COKE?
- You need to have at least one hour a day for yourself & that is when you are travelling or driving to work :)
- Indians celebrate Dasara, Diwali & Ganesha festival. Where as Americans celebrate Luther
King day, Presidents day & Lincon day. - Microsoft has the required intelligence & capability in its marketing group to sell their
x-box even during recession. - Too much of pain killers is not good for health
- True love is when you accept the person even after knowing all the weakness.
- In life all animals except for man knows the basic business of life is to enjoy it.
- Which one to choose? Internet explorer, FireFox, Google chrome or maxthon?
- Kids are always intelligent than parents for they have inherited the genes from you & they
are working on top of it. - The quieter you become the more you can hear.
- Moths don't have stomach.
- One of the must watch movie for all - Jurassic Park.
- Real life neither has Ctrl+C & Ctrl+V nor undo, Ctrl+z, rewind, fast forward.
- Flyover or underpass?
- Not all the glitters is gold.
- An Apple a day keeps the doctor away. But if the doctor smile & if/she is cute, keep the
apple away. - Silence is the true friend that never betrays.
Actually I had decided the name of the blog. I didn't want to change the name. So I landed
with the contents above & this statement is not irrelevant :)
Monday, March 8, 2010
HAPPY WOMEN'S DAY
Monday blues started in the morning when I had to get up in my routine time to get to my work place. Blame it on my memory I had forgotten about today being the Women's day. Only when I got into the car, I heard FM radio wishing every women a HAPPY WOMEN'S DAY. Wow...I realized its International Women's day today only after I heard the radio. All that was striking me hard was Monday blues till I heard about Women's day
As the RJ's on the air continued wishing women's day & started giving away the gift vochures & prizes to those who called the FM channel, I looked through the window. I saw a lady carrying a small baby tied in a saree around her waist getting ready to go to her work place, a construction work... In the next signal I noticed that there is an old women who is a begger, begging to make her food for today, with out worrying about it being a womens day or not. I also noticed a women carrying flowers in a basket, selling them again to make her living.
Today , Indian Govt is proposing reservation for ladies in parliament with 33% quota. This means there would be atleast 33 ladies for every 100 men in the parliament, which is good. But wonder why no government bothers to do some thing good for these poor ladies who struggle to make their living day in & day out.
As I walked into office, there were beautiful roses, waiting for all the ladies to wish a very Happy Women's day. This obviously makes us feel good, but I started to think if the Women's day celebrations are limited to those few people who can actually go out, chill out & celebrate? Is the celebration limited to people who sit in the A/C room or can afford to relax for a day? I see lot of e-mails floating around wishing each other for the day, but I don't think any of us would stop & ask those ladies struggling to join us in celebrations. Why is world so unfair? When I wished some one close to me, a Happy Women's day, I got a question back to me: Do you think Women are Happy with this one day celebration only? Well, honestly I am clueless..
I am hoping that this Women's day will bring in a change to all the women on earth & really does get a joy to everyone. Not to forget, here is wishing to ALL THE WOMEN IN THE WORLD: "A VERY HAPPY WOMEN'S DAY".
As the RJ's on the air continued wishing women's day & started giving away the gift vochures & prizes to those who called the FM channel, I looked through the window. I saw a lady carrying a small baby tied in a saree around her waist getting ready to go to her work place, a construction work... In the next signal I noticed that there is an old women who is a begger, begging to make her food for today, with out worrying about it being a womens day or not. I also noticed a women carrying flowers in a basket, selling them again to make her living.
Today , Indian Govt is proposing reservation for ladies in parliament with 33% quota. This means there would be atleast 33 ladies for every 100 men in the parliament, which is good. But wonder why no government bothers to do some thing good for these poor ladies who struggle to make their living day in & day out.
As I walked into office, there were beautiful roses, waiting for all the ladies to wish a very Happy Women's day. This obviously makes us feel good, but I started to think if the Women's day celebrations are limited to those few people who can actually go out, chill out & celebrate? Is the celebration limited to people who sit in the A/C room or can afford to relax for a day? I see lot of e-mails floating around wishing each other for the day, but I don't think any of us would stop & ask those ladies struggling to join us in celebrations. Why is world so unfair? When I wished some one close to me, a Happy Women's day, I got a question back to me: Do you think Women are Happy with this one day celebration only? Well, honestly I am clueless..
I am hoping that this Women's day will bring in a change to all the women on earth & really does get a joy to everyone. Not to forget, here is wishing to ALL THE WOMEN IN THE WORLD: "A VERY HAPPY WOMEN'S DAY".
Monday, February 8, 2010
Simple Happiness in life
Simple things in life give immense happiness. In our busy world we hardly find time to enjoy these simple happiness. People are so busy in life and we have got so mechanical that we hardly find time to even realize that we are not enjoying simple happiness in life which gives un-matching pleasure. How many of us realize that we are missing things like getting drenched in rain - like a small kid, Eating ice cream in rain...totally shivering in rain, Eating junk food like chips or some fried item sipping a cup of coffee watching TV at home when it is pouring rains & cats, the smell or fragrance that we get when it rains (obviously we don't even get to know if it is raining when we sit in the AC room, stuck to our seats), Lying down on mom's feet & she moving her hands over our head with affection, Getting up late on a Sunday morning, enjoying a day off lazily at home doing nothing, Going on long ride in a bike/ 2 wheeler(thanks to cars which has replaced bikes & 2 wheelers like a miracle), Meeting good old friends in our favorite place, so called adda & gossip about every damn thing on earth, enjoying the window shopping all day with your most dearest person on earth...List goes on.
When I sit back & think why are we deprived of all these small, simple but still a difference making happiness, it is only because we are running a race endlessly. We are so busy in life, that we don't even an hour to stop and enjoy these happiness. We start our day mechanically in morning & end it mechanically in the night.
But when I think about all this, I feel we are still blessed. We had our time to enjoy our share of simple happiness. When we got back home from school, at least we had our parents would be home eagerly waiting for us. (Of course, if both parents were working, then the situation would be little different, but nevertheless, parents of our generation never carried work back home with them.) The pleasure we would get in updating the events that happened in school to parents is unmeasurable. Now these days when kids get back from school either they go to day care or they reach home when their parents are still at work. Parents also get back home with their work, telecon or meetings. Those small happiness we had kids of this generation is definitely not getting.
Where is the world leading to??
When I sit back & think why are we deprived of all these small, simple but still a difference making happiness, it is only because we are running a race endlessly. We are so busy in life, that we don't even an hour to stop and enjoy these happiness. We start our day mechanically in morning & end it mechanically in the night.
But when I think about all this, I feel we are still blessed. We had our time to enjoy our share of simple happiness. When we got back home from school, at least we had our parents would be home eagerly waiting for us. (Of course, if both parents were working, then the situation would be little different, but nevertheless, parents of our generation never carried work back home with them.) The pleasure we would get in updating the events that happened in school to parents is unmeasurable. Now these days when kids get back from school either they go to day care or they reach home when their parents are still at work. Parents also get back home with their work, telecon or meetings. Those small happiness we had kids of this generation is definitely not getting.
Where is the world leading to??
Wednesday, January 13, 2010
I AM OK - YOU ARE OK
It is said that any person will be one of the 3 phases in life
1) I AM OK, YOU ARE NOT OK.
2) YOU ARE OK, I AM NOT OK.
3) I AM OK AND YOU ARE OK.
It is definitely true. But I have realised most of us, most of the time are in 1st state. We do switch to 2nd state sometimes. But it is state 1 that we live with predominantly. A very few people are in 3rd state. The day we start living in 3rd state, I AM OK, YOU ARE OK, we are in real happy mental state. People say Happiness is state of mind...extension to this would be the state we are in... when we feel I am ok, you are ok, it means everything is ok... When everything is ok, we are obviously happy. That happiness is the state of mind is what people talk about
When I tried to analyze why is it very few people are in 3rd state & most of are in 1st state, it is because predominantly because of ego. Every single person on earth has ego built in with in themselves. People can let go off their sleep, food, every thing but not their ego. A person might claim, that he/she is not egoistic...but by nature all are egoistic. It is only about accepting it or not accepting it. When a person accepts it...it means he/she is transforming from state 1 to state 2. But again as I have mentioned again, not all can be in state 2 for long, for the ego hits the man over & over again.
when we grow beyond our ego & start accepting the people the way they are with out any expectation from the other person, it the state of happiness we achieve, I am ok - You are ok state. Very few people are in this for ever. All of us switch back & forth in all these states & stick to one of the state... Person who sticks to state 3 is always happy. That state of mind - happiness that people talk about.
I am concluding this by trying to find out my state... I know I am OK....Are YOU OK???? :)
1) I AM OK, YOU ARE NOT OK.
2) YOU ARE OK, I AM NOT OK.
3) I AM OK AND YOU ARE OK.
It is definitely true. But I have realised most of us, most of the time are in 1st state. We do switch to 2nd state sometimes. But it is state 1 that we live with predominantly. A very few people are in 3rd state. The day we start living in 3rd state, I AM OK, YOU ARE OK, we are in real happy mental state. People say Happiness is state of mind...extension to this would be the state we are in... when we feel I am ok, you are ok, it means everything is ok... When everything is ok, we are obviously happy. That happiness is the state of mind is what people talk about
When I tried to analyze why is it very few people are in 3rd state & most of are in 1st state, it is because predominantly because of ego. Every single person on earth has ego built in with in themselves. People can let go off their sleep, food, every thing but not their ego. A person might claim, that he/she is not egoistic...but by nature all are egoistic. It is only about accepting it or not accepting it. When a person accepts it...it means he/she is transforming from state 1 to state 2. But again as I have mentioned again, not all can be in state 2 for long, for the ego hits the man over & over again.
when we grow beyond our ego & start accepting the people the way they are with out any expectation from the other person, it the state of happiness we achieve, I am ok - You are ok state. Very few people are in this for ever. All of us switch back & forth in all these states & stick to one of the state... Person who sticks to state 3 is always happy. That state of mind - happiness that people talk about.
I am concluding this by trying to find out my state... I know I am OK....Are YOU OK???? :)
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